Best Marriage Advice?

A wedding is a fabulous thing. It's your big day, there is a dress, a suit, lovely rings, a huge cake, great hair, big party, and, of course, a fabulous celebrant to make sure that your marriage is valid. And then what? What is a marriage? How on earth do you manage to love this person for the rest of your life, through all the inevitable ups and downs? I had a bit of a trawl to look at the answer.....enjoy, and maybe, add your own advice.

"After a disillusioned first couple of years of marriage, my husband and I went to a therapist who told us: Marriage should not be so much about looking at each other but looking in the same direction together. I believe the message from this is to remember the positive things that brought you together and then to concentrate on positive goals to achieve as a couple. My observation is that all the cute, unique things that made your spouse wonderful in the beginning are going to be the things that grate on your nerves later. Try to focus on the positive, if you look for negative qualities in someone you are sure to find them" 

- Deb V

"Communicate, respect for self and each other, trust, faith, laugh together not at each other, don’t go to bed angry or hurt, remember your vows, don’t ask what you are not ready and willing to accept and let go and remember that often time we don’t know we’re making a mistake unless we are told so speak up without being rude and hurtful."

~ Antoinette 34

"Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder."

- Dr Phil

"There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way that works. But recognize when it's not working and be honest when it needs fixing."

- Dr Phil

"Learn how to agree to disagree. No two people agree on everything, and that's okay, but it's important to be okay with each other's differences."
- Lee Bowera, LP, PhD

"Research consistently shows that touching more creates a stronger bond by releasing oxytocin. Hold hands, rub shoulders, hug, kiss, give high-fives or even fist-bumps or bottom pats. When you give a quick hug or kiss, try to lengthen it to at least 5 or 10 seconds for more effective results!"
- Lori Lowe, MA

Sources:

1. http://marriage.about.com/od/advice/a/bestadvice.htm

2. http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/53

3. http://www.yourtango.com/201170768/50-best-marriage-tips-ever