I love this piece of writing. It was written by Madeleine L'Engle, taken from her book The Irrational Season. Marriage is a big risk, committing yourself to the same person forever. Forever! Imagine that? But so well worth all the hard work, the tears, the joys and the simplicity of feeling safe within the cocoon of love that the married couple can create.
"But
ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two
people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their
love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is
indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage
itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new
creature.
To marry
is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves
to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of
freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom,
and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not
possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person.
When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that
co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is
often rejected."
